Based on your ASMR experiences…
Explain if ASMR is a sexual sensation, include details like:
- Does your ASMR feel the same as a sexual response?
- How is your ASMR similar to a sexual response?
- How is your ASMR different from a sexual response?
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They are two different things. Can be confusing if you have tingles in the pelvic area during ASMR, which I mistook for sexual arousal when I was younger. The personal attention, light touching and stroking of hair that is a part of petting or making out that leads to sexual arousal is concurrent, so having the tingles and getting aroused is happening at the same time. When I seek tingles I go to videos. When I seek arousal, I go to my partner. I now understand that just because I am tingling down there does not mean that the stimulus is turning me on. During adolescence I did not understand that and felt weird about it. Straight female, 46. Like male and female whisperers equally but find I am pickier about the other sounds that they make.
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ASMR is BOTH, it is not one or the other. It is both sexual and relaxing although i think the importance here is why it is sexual to some who dont understand why it is (well some of the noises are sexual in they are relaxing, although relaxing does not need to be sexual either but some of these noises are just plain imitations of noises in porn).. of course this also depends on how it is being done. It seems to me lots of females especially take advantage of the idea that ASMR can be sexual because they have found out it gets them views, ratings and donations. It is no different to women on “twitch” (web cam for online gaming) where it is being used for sexual purposes to get donations for showing breasts, showing bum in leggins, bending over etc. It is the intentions rather than what they wear/do.
You can often tell who are the ones who intended to be sexual because they are the ones who wear low cut tops and doll themselves like crazy and use “display pictures” with pictures of boobs etc (display picture is the still thumbnail image you see at the side before you click on the video). ASMR is about mainly relaxation, yes it can be used sexually but there is no doubt lots of females abuse ASMR to get ratings and money from people especially the men some of which class it as mild porn (not their fault).
What I dont like is people who make this a problem of “men” and deny there is anything sexual about it, the issue lies with people doing desperate things for attention and money, ASMR is cool but i wish youtube would ban false advertising where people use “boob” display pictures just to get views as it is becoming beyond a joke. Whether someone wants to use ASMR sexually or just as a relaxation technique, well that is obviously up to them but some people are so in denial that females DO use THIS ASMR as a sexual tool or use their sexuality to gain ratings/money/views.. Even some authors of these video content pretend they aren’t doing it sexually when in reality they are (sure perhaps some are being honest but people are rarely going to admit to something that may get them shamed).
Actions always speak louder folks but i really dont have an issue with people who use youtube this way, i am just sick of the false advertising and boob display pictures people use to “game” and “cheat” the system (youtube should not be about porn). As for why ASMR is sexy, well some of the females doing it are making licking, suction and wet noises that are totally unrealistic (people simply do not sit down at subway slurping on a sandwich).. when you are eating some food you dont eat it in a sloppy slobbery wet way do you? Some women are obviously imitating blowjobs for attention. Its ridiculous for those who deny it with “no person does that, people dont do such things”. Well apparently some do.
AMSR is intended different for different people, originally it was for relaxation but once females found out the sexuality aspect to some have taken it to the next level of being sexual with it. My two cents.
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No, to me ASMR is not sexual. The sensations I experience aren’t at all like sexual arousal or excitement and they tend to relax and soothe, even put me into a kind of trance, rather than getting me worked up. I don’t find there to be any overlap between the two. I would also posit – after reading some of the other comments in this discussion – that there is a big difference between using ASMR videos for sexual release and actually experiencing ASMR that feels sexual. I would argue that watching ASMR videos for sexual purposes is not necessarily ASMR, just another type of porn. It *could* be ASMR, of course. But just because you’re watching ASMR videos doesn’t mean you’re experiencing ASMR. So when researching whether or not ASMR “feels sexual”, I think it’s important to make that distinction.
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I tried to use ASMR for insomnia issues and muscle relaxation cause I hold a lot of tension. I expected it to be a nonsexual response, because it was for relaxing.
Important detail to add is that I have acousticophilia, so to me ASMR plays right into a paraphilia. I feel like ASMR itself isn’t sexual but when paired with acousticophilia it becomes sexual.
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Totally can be a sexual feeling. I fall into the asexual spectrum and identify as demisexual. Basically, I just pretty much never experience lust or desire to have sex with other people I know or see, whether it’s on TV or in real life, and I can count the number of exceptions I’ve had during my whole life on one hand and still have leftover fingers. This doesn’t preclude me from being turned on, though.
That said, on rare occasion, I have experienced mild sexual response to ASMR, only through roleplays that appealed to my kinks and what I’ll describe as wet-type-sounds. So, not from tapping, or paper crinkling, but from specific noises and situations that are just as legitimate ASMR sources. Interestingly, for these, I feel tingles in my lower back, which is the same spot I get tingles when I’m turned on by something mental.
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